Women asking me for help with a programming issue:

Hi! I really liked the X you made in R that you presented a few months ago. I’m trying to do something similar, but I’m having trouble with [specific aspect of X]. I was wondering if you could direct me to a few resources or help me later this week. I’ll buy the coffee!

Dudes asking me for help with a programming issue:

Need a favor! I know you make alphabets in R. Could you make me a Q or tell me how? Thanks!